Nr. 393:
Ten reasons or opportunities to get a good or bad marriage \ cohabitation as a Christian! Part 2
Marriage is under attack today, but love is stronger than hatred so that light is stronger than darkness. Therefore, it is possible and it should have been natural for the faithful - who believe in God - had stayed together for life as husband and wife. That this is not happening for various reasons, but one of the main reasons for this is that remarriage is allowed become among the believers even though the word of God warns against this and say that those who either marries or a divorced commits adultery. Illustration shows a happy couple who tell us how sex and relationships belong - within marriage and only there and not before marriage or "marriage" No. 2 as the Bible describes as adultery for a believer! Sex before marriage or sex with spouse No. 2 3. etc. or a divorced is adultery teaches writing and shall not inherit the kingdom of God!
Note the illustration on the image that they have wedding ring on, an it so have a law to unfold on the sexual. But not with the number 2 spouse or a divorced!
Luke 16 18 Whosoever putteth away his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and whoever marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery.
1) Work at home and abroad creates good marriage. Laziness and lethargy create and do something with us, to the negative. Hard work and diligence does something to us, to you good. We have an article by the late Bible teacher Poul Madsen on our website under the articles that I recommend here.
Arrogance, deceit and ladhed (laziness) is according to Karl Barth essence of sin. Hard work is soothing to the spirit, soul and body!
Word. 31. 27 She keeps an eye on how it goes to her house, and laziness bread she eats.
2) In a good and normal marriage guards and protective of than another. It says in Scripture that we must accept one another in love and charity shall cover the multitude of sins. It is not quite correct translation, it should have been that love hides a multitude of deficiencies, it had been better Norwegian.
1 Peter 4:8 and above all things have fervent love for one another! for charity shall cover the multitude of sins.
The Greek word used could also be translated as follows: That the ship was covered with the waves. In other words, in a good and durable marriage love one with agape - God's love - not only with the human and sexual love. In Greek filio and eros love!
3) One must set boundaries for each other. It's not all tolerate and may allow exactly the same. Therefore it is so important that we know where the boundaries should go and be. There are some that are extremely domesticated, it is then difficult for the person to be married to a mess. How could I go on, but to have limits and know what the other party tolerate and enjoy, and to follow it is to make them both happy and satisfied in marriage.
The golden rule applies to all people, especially in marriage:
12 Therefore, whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, that you also do to them: for this is the Law and the Prophets.
4) Before doing anything, you should agree among themselves. This is not easy in today's society there than to take quick action. But as believers, it is right and biblical that we talk together about everything, and all decisions. Before they go, and puts everything within its God who hears and answers prayer.
Matt. 18. 19 Again I say unto you, if two of you on earth agree about whether to pray, it shall be done for them by my Father in heaven.
5) The man should live with the sense of his wife, and then he can ask for anything and get it. There are special lifting related to being a good husband.
1 Pet. 3. 7 Likewise, husbands In: Live with sense together with your wives as the weaker vessel, and show them honor, and when they are co-heirs of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.
6) The woman should submit to her husband.
1 Pet. 3. 5b subordinate themselves under their own husbands, 6 just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and her children were in when I do well and do not let yourselves be intimidated by anything.
From my commentaries Ephesians 5 22 The married women should submit to their husbands as to the Lord.
His wife is called by the Lord to submit to her husband.
Subordination applies to all children in relation to their parents. Women in relation to man and man in relation to Jesus and Jesus in relationship to the Father (1 Cor. 11th).
It applies to all workers in relation to their employers.
It applies to the church in relation to Christ.
And from Rom 13.1 f we know that subordination applies to all citizens of a country in relation to state power.
Let's look at the verb: to be submissive.
There are important nuances: to place himself under, or to position themselves, position themselves in (the expression I like, I enjoy that).
Originally a military term expression: to rank under.
An important wisdom: Without subordination can never be harmony.
The requirement to submit to apply in one way or another all of us.
It is for all people, each with their own plans and their relationships, to be submissive. There are always some that you and I will be submitting to.
23 For the husband is head of the wife as Christ is head of the church: and he is the savior of his body.
In a marriage, the church, at work or wherever it may be, it is important to fill that role is set and match. We see the same principle subordinate when Paul teaches other believers. This applies to all people at all times in all places. 1. Cor. 11. 8 For man was not made from woman, but woman from man. 9 Neither was man created for woman, but woman for man. 11 But the LORD is the woman without the man, and the man is not without the woman. 12 For as woman came from man, so the man born of a woman, but everything is from God.
24 As the church submits to Christ, wives must submit to their husbands in everything.
There is NO EQUALITY between men and women in the church context. In the context of marriage and the woman is subjugated to man. This is not about coercion or oppression to do, but there is a scheme in marriage and in the church.
We need not be afraid of the word "child" or "subordination", for each day during'll do us a lot of rules that society has set up rules for the different areas. For example, in traffic. If we do not submit us the traffic rules, it goes wrong with us. The rules are the best for us. So it is with the driving rules that we have in marriage and in God's kingdom.
If we go outside the schemes, which God has set up for marriage and the church, we do not have the full blessing of God's plans. God's plans are the best for us.
What concerning the position of women in marriage, so it goes on to give birth to children, help to educate children and support her husband in the decisions he takes. We must also add that the man should pay attention to his wife's wishes in your marriage, but if they do not reach an agreement, it is the man who has the final say. He also carries thus full responsibility for the decisions that are made.
7) Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
From my commentaries Ephesians 5 21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ!
While this verse is a transition to the next section that specifies what submission means in practice between spouses, between parents and children and between masters and servants.
But as the title begins with Paul saying that we should all submitting to one another. Subordination is a universal Christian obligation. It applies to all relationships, in church, at work and in every home.
Jesus Christ is itself prototype of what subordination means. He emptied himself, he renounced his rights and came to serve. He worked out his disciples by washing their feet even though he was their Lord.
There are many who are struggling to get this to submit to each other to harmonize. Logically one thinks that some under, someone has to be over. But the word "parent" does not exist in our Bible!
Subordination is sadly a negatively charged term. We think lightly of oppression, subjugation, submissiveness. And we must confess with shame that there has been a lot of it in Christian homes with support in these words. Many a so-called Bible-believing husband has been a tyrant at home - and he was supposed Bible-believing!
But today it's gone completely the other way where the kids decide everything and the parents are sidelined. Both through legislation, what is being served on TV and whatever else comes up. It is from one extreme to the next.
Subordination can also be expressed positively as Paul does in ROM 12.10 Love each other dearly as siblings of others as better than yourselves. When I put others above myself, I submit them. Or, as Peter puts it: 1Peter 5.5 And all you shall be clothed with humility toward one another. For "God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble."
The mutual submission should be in awe of the Lord. This means that in the home, both spouses stand on the Lord's face and ask: How do you want our relationship to be?
Then it will not fit dominant domineering either from the male or female side! - A lot of women struggle has been justified, but unfortunately, some fell in the same trench as the man and ruled him so he ruled over her.
Although female subordination mentioned first, I think we need to start with the admonition to us men to put her subordination in the right light.
8) The man should love and protect his wife as Christ does the church.
From my commentaries Ephesians 5 25 Husbands should love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it
Love Life as dispensing of the spouses has thus their pattern of love that Christ exhibits in his saving action against church. But if Christ ministering care of the church, his bride, will be the model for the earthly corporeality in gender relations, it means that the relationship between the sexes is nothing more than a kind of autonomous "worldly" in creation. By parallel the relationship between man and woman in marriage the relationship between Christ and the church in salvation, Paul is giving the earthly-physical love between spouses one Christological grounds. Salvation relationship between Christ and the church is the model for the relationship of marriage, but the pattern also applies vice versa - marriage between a man and woman should be an image of the relationship between Christ and the church.
26 to sanctify and cleanse it with the bath water in the power of a word.
TIT 3.5 And he saved us, not because of our righteousness, but because He is merciful, He saved us through the bath re-feed and renewing by the Holy Spirit. The whole Christian life is a prominent process that will last a lifetime and totally secure well into eternity! But one day we will stand before God and still be the bride of Christ, even though God has a piece of work to do in and through us.
27 So he set it before him in glory, not having spot or wrinkle or any such holy and without fault should be.
The goal is that we will stand without spot or wrinkle or any such, ie without errors. What is stain, blemish and mistake for a Christian? It is sin and impurity. The Bible talks about Jesus coming again, as a bridegroom to pick his bride to the wedding. When our Bridegroom comes, we stand as sanctified Christians. It is now that we are in such a preparatory period before the heavenly wedding feast. Then it is important that we use this time to get ready.
Philippians 1:9-10 says, "And this is my prayer, that your love may become more and more rich in insight and judgment, so that in the different questions may discern what is right. Ye shall be clean and no errors on the day of Christ. " We will be pure and blameless in Christ's day. Colossians 1:22 also says something similar: "But now he has reconciled you to himself, since Christ suffered death with his earthly body. Holy, without blemish and unassailable, he would ask you to himself." This is thus continuously. You are supposed to go through a process called sanctification. The goal of this sanctification is that you will stand up without sin and injustice.
28 In the same way, ie men love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
When Jesus sacrificed everything for the church, God calls man to take his example. To love his wife is to love oneself. Love is the universe's strongest and most important. Song of Solomon. 8. 6 Set me as a seal upon your heart, as a seal on your arm! For love is strong as death, passion fierce as the grave. The blazes like fire, like a mighty flame.
29 For no one ever hated his own body, on the contrary, gives one the industry and usually it just as Christ does the church.
As Christ gave himself for the church, as a man should give to his wife. True love is about giving, not getting. It will be important for man to meet his wife's needs.
In the Old Testament is also used marriage as a picture of the relationship between God and His people. In the same manner as in the New Testament as shown above. An example is given below:
Isaiah 54 4-5 Do not be afraid, you will not be ashamed. Do not be ashamed, you will not be disgraced. Now you can forget the shame of your youth and remember no more your widowhood disgrace. For he who created you, your husband, the Lord Almighty is his name. Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer, who is called the God of the earth.
The purpose of marriage is then to help each other get to heaven, and to show how non-Christian reference to Christ and the church is.
9) Refuse not each sex and relationships, the Word of God that we shall be only in marriage avholdne a time to live in prayer and consecration. Otherwise, we will not! Sex is like a drunk and an enrichment.
Song of Solomon 1:4 Drag me! We will run after thee. The king has brought me into his chambers: we will be glad and rejoice in thee, we will praise your love more than wine; honestly love the dig.
1 Cor. 7. 2 but for fornication, let every man have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. 3 man do his duty toward his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband, four wives prevails not over his own body, but the husband: likewise encourages nor man over his own body, but the wife. 5 Hold ye not apart except after consultation, for a time, to live in prayer, and come together again, lest Satan tempt you, because you are not able to abstain!
Proverbs 5:18 Your fountain be blessed, slipped thee wife of your youth!
10) If the tenderness and emotion. Caresses and touch each other is like food for the body. A person who does not eat get a low blood sugar. Have a non physical contact, so it seems the same, one being "reduced" in the marriage. But physically touch - unless sex is involved - is of crucial importance!
Song of Solomon 8:1 I wish you were me as a brother, nursed at my mother's breasts! If I then found you out there, I would kiss you, and no one would despise me for it.
- Our findings suggest that physical, tender touch in relationships have a positive effect on several different stress-related illnesses.
It writes Julianne Holt-Lundstad in an article in the latest issue of the journal Psychosomatic Medicine.
Holt-Lundstad is professor of psychology at Brigham Young University in Utah, USA.
She has spearheaded the first study in the world such as suggesting the health effects even men too can have the "warm" touch.
- In addition, we see that the effect of regular and repeated heat taps can be associated with increased levels of the beneficial hormone oksitocin, and lower levels of stress hormones in both men and women, she writes in the article.
Should enjoy home
Through four weeks, to 34 (by definition) healthy couples between 20 and 39 years will be in contact with the study. Most of the couples were trained in a Couple touch technique contact enchancements techniques, which they would perform three times a week.
Some of the couples were selected as controls. The researchers instructed them to continue with their regular contact, but to report on the physical contact and the atmosphere in the home.
Both before and after the period, researchers measured all participants blood pressure several times, as well as various hormone measurements, among other oksitocinet, which scientists linked to lower levels of stress hormones and lower blood pressure.
The marriage may have health benefits, suggests study.
Participants also took saliva samples by themselves at home in the afternoon, in connection with that they performed the "warmth" they had received instruction from the researchers.
- We found a significant effect on oksitocinet from these saliva samples. As early as the first week, oksitocinnivået significantly higher in these than in the control group, the researchers wrote in the article.
The researchers believe the findings are particularly relevant because snuggle experiments were done outside the laboratory, in contrast to previous studies with similar results
Happy Heart for men?
The effect touching exercises had on blood pressure was more pronounced positive for men than for women, suggesting polls.
- The men who gave and received touch was as high blood pressure as the men in the control group before the experiment began. They had higher average blood pressure than women, but at the end of the experiment they separated themselves from the women no longer, according to the article.
- There are now more and more pointing to the social and emotional support has a protective effect on the disease rate and mortality, the researchers believe.
The measurements indicated, however, that the effects do not hold up as long a time - the best results they got right after the pair had made contact drills.
But scientists continue to hold that such physical care to increase oxytocin, will be lucky even if the levels do not remain constant.
Men can improve blood pressure with warm touch, say the researchers.
- Oksitocinaktiviteten will also be more powerful when one adds warmth touches regularly and repeatedly, than if you only do it by individual cases, according to the article.
Much left to touch
There is much scientists do not yet have "touchet" catching up in terms of people in the survey.
What such person relationship between two people to say how large the health effects of touch can be? What is the length of the marriage to speak, and also recipient and donor's personality?
- The next step may be to try to find out if physical contact beyond care in the form of words in this context, and if so, how we can use a combination of verbal support and physical touch, write article authors.
The study did not take into consideration whether it was the turbulent and stressed couples or those with safe conditions, which had the best advantage of the experiment.
Final Comment: This was the second of three articles. There is a recent and comprehensive article in the end!
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