Ten reasons or opportunities to get a good or bad marriage \ cohabitation as a Christian! Part 1
Marriage is under attack today, but love is stronger than hatred so that light is stronger than darkness. Therefore, it is possible and it should have been natural for the faithful - who believe in God - had stayed together for life as husband and wife. That this is not happening for various reasons, but one of the main reasons for this is that remarriage is allowed become among the believers even though the word of God warns against this and say that those who either marries or a divorced commits adultery. Illustration shows a happy couple
Luke 16 18 Whosoever putteth away his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and whoever marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery.
1) My first and most important choice here is a one prays in together and have at least a daily devotional and prayer time together. To come within its God with their lives - together - do something with the relationship that makes it tough.
Fork 4:12 And if any man can win over those who are alone, the two stand against him, and a triple strand contrition is not quickly.
2) Adultery is grounds for divorce # 1 whether one is a believer or unbeliever. One who is cheating says happily with all that he does not want and will have a life-long marriage and that he \ she is not happy with their spouse. Adultery is a sin and that is to go 100% to God's word and God's will! This is not really anything to discuss or comment on, but I will be clear that an important point, adultery is grounds for divorce # 1 anyway! It is totally unacceptable and completely against God's word and it's stepping on their spouse. But amid all this sad is forgiveness, if it is a long struggle and way to go!
Matthew 19:6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has sammenføiet, let not man separate.
3) Believe that remarriage is allowed and that there is a "new" for the divorce is because No. 2 FOR A CHRISTIAN IS IS GET PITY! Having been so long that I have seen why the church of God is due, where remarriage among believers is like a cancer and drag the church into spiritual and moral darkness and decay. One can distinguish the case of large and difficult problems in the marriage, but not remarry a believer! Difficult? With God's help and the good will so everything goes to victory in his life at all something I like many others know from experience.
1 Cor. 7. 10 The married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, that a wife should not separate herself from her husband; 11 but she is separated from him when she vedbli being unmarried or reconciled with her husband - and that a man to separate himself from his wife. Proverbs 6:29 So it is with the one who goes in to his neighbor's wife, no one gets unpunished who touches her. Proverbs 5:20 Why, my son, would you be drunk with desire another man's wife, and embrace the bosom of a foreign woman?
4) Divorce due to many is that either adds to strong or weak ties to their spouse. It is possible to be for the "string" and "relax". Even if one's spouse, then another person also needs to realize themselves and defend their own values. But this may be too strong, then one must yield. And it is possible that one takes great liberties in marriage, both these things are damaging and destruction if it is pulled too far. But it is also important to be yourself in marriage, but also to "follow" with what the other is doing! Here's cooperation essential.
Fork 7:18 It is good that you hold on to that one, but you should not let the other, and he who fears God finds a way out of all this.
5) Children are a gift and a life fruit. For many who are not aware of it, so are children of an adhesive and a great blessing for which marriage lasts a lifetime. By all means, children can also be a trial. But all that is negative will outweigh the positives!
Psalm 127:3 Behold, children are gift from the Lord, the fruit of a salary.
6) It is important to make a good "preparation" before one gets married. You are allowed to ask themselves and the person who one should marry what one expects from marriage. Before I got married I said to my future wife that she could expect a normal A4 life. I was then in his early 20's and even then a controversial preacher and I spoke clearly when I showed that this was something we had to deal with and live with.
Luke 14 28 For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth down first and count according to what it will cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it, 29 lest, when he has laid a foundation and is not able to finish it, all that behold it begin to mock him, saying, 30 This man began to build and was not able to finish it? 31 Or what king, going to encounter another king in war, put down first and consider whether he is ten thousand is able to meet him that cometh against him with twenty thousand? Proverbs 12:4 A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband, but a bad is like rottenness in his bones. Proverbs 6:22 p.m. He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord. Proverbs 31:10 A good wife - who can find? Far more than the pearls she's worth.
7) Forgiveness is a force in the marriage. It is of course easy to be a good husband when everything runs smoothly. But when the butter contrary, what? When should we forgive - even our spouse - that God has forgiven us in Christ Jesus. The word "forgive" means to restart, to pardon, to wipe out debt. When we do any injustice, we want their forgiveness to restore our relationship with them. Forgiveness is given because a person deserves to be forgiven. No one deserves to be forgiven. Forgiveness is an act based on love and grace. Forgiveness is a decision to no longer hold anything against a person, despite what they have done to you.
2 Corinthians 2:10 But that which ye forgive anything, and I forgive him, for what I have forgiven - if I had anything to forgive - I have done for your sake, for Christ's face, that we should not be beguiled by Satan; 2 Corinthians 12:13 For what it was I was neglected in the other parishes without at that I fell unto the burden? Forgive me this wrong! 2 Corinthians 2:7 so that I hand rather to forgive and comfort him, lest he perish in even greater sorrow. Luk 17:4 And he seven times a day trespass against thee seven times comes back to you, saying, I repent, thou shalt forgive him. Luk 17:3 Take heed! If your brother sins, then rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him! Matt 6:21 p.m. Then Peter came to him and said, Lord! how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? as much as seven times?
8) Common interests. The example. to go on holiday separately, at an all time have different interests will struggle in marriage. So my clear call, "doing things together,". The more one does and live together, the stronger the marriage. Tidy up together, act together, go on vacation together, go to church together, everything we do, do it together.
Matthew 19:6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has sammenføiet, let not man separate.
9) As real people, one should not deny each other sex and relationships. Now married life so much more than just a sexual intercourse. But having intimacy and closeness in marriage is of great importance. Does a married, so hear it to also have intimacy and sex. It is also the strength and blessing of marriage. Let yourself be intoxicated by his wife Siner font, then aiming it without doubt on sex and relationships.
Proverbs 7:18 Come, let us intoxicate us in love until the morning, rejoice in the love! Includes a full chapter from Ordspråkesboken that is so full of wisdom and insight that you should papered the wall in your bedroom. Word. 5. My son! Heed my wisdom, Incline your ear to my understanding: 2 so you can hide wise counsel and your lips may preserve knowledge! 3 For the lips of a strange woman drip honey and smoother than oil is her speech; 4 But her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a double-edged sword. 5 Her feet go down to death, her steps lead straight to the grave. 6 On the path of life, she will not walk, her ways are moveable, and there, without her knowing it. 7 So listen to me now, my children, and depart not from the words of my mouth! 8 Remove thy way far from her, and come not nigh the door of her house, 9 lest you give others your adornment and a cruel lord thy years, 10 lest strangers be filled from your property, and the fruit of your toil get in another man's house, 11 then you have to mourn at the last, when your body and your flesh will waste away, 12 And say, How have I been able hated instruction, and how has my heart despised reproof, 13 as I did not listen to those who taught me, and not bent my ear to them that instructed me! 14 I was almost in all evil in the midst of the congregation and the church. 15 Drink from your own cistern, running water from your own well! 16 Should your springs well pouring into the streets, your streams in the streets? 17 Let them be for you alone and not strangers' with thee! 18 Your fountain be blessed, slipped thee wife of your youth! 19 The loving hind and graceful shutting down! Her bosom Cattle thee at all times, of her love be always drunk! 20 Why, my son, would you be drunk with desire another man's wife, and embrace the bosom of a foreign woman? 21 For the ways of man are open to the sight of the Lord, and the Lord will make all his paths. 22 The wicked are trapped in their own iniquity, and he held tight in his own sin snares. 23 He must die, because he would not let him chastise, and for his great Folly's sake he tumbles and falls.
10) My last point I want aiming at is how can I make her husband happy, satisfied and happy. Not how I should be satisfied, but how your spouse can be there! The self-centered life is not of God, therefore putting their spouse higher than itself, it will make both you and your spouse happy, happy, happy!
From my commentaries Philip Wiper letter 2 4 Think not only on their own, but on the others. It is meant to not actively look for the faults and defects but set up and be ready when needed. Both spiritual and practical. An ability to put themselves in others' situations and the opinions of others, not just their own. One lives for others a itself. 5 show the same mindset as Christ Jesus! This is one of the most important Bible passages, as we strive to live accordingly. Egil Strand's Guide to the New Testament writes so wonderful about this: Phroneo (mind) does not have to think just purely theoretical and doctrinal, but having his mind, his will and pleasure nodes to a thinking, phroneo are generally not neutral and passive thinking - except where it comes to regular review, such as the Fil.1.7 - but normative and therefore carefully nodes of a human subject, that is what the Bible calls the heart. It goes on all the person setting adds myself to. 6 He was God, but did not consider stolen to be equal with God. Here is the incarnation. Jesus as the firstborn and only one that was fully equal to the Father and the Father shared everything with. Jesus was in his pre-existence with the Father from the ancient days of said Mika. But in the fullness of time he came into the world and became a man. God himself descended into Jesus Christ. 7 He gave up on his own, took on the form of a servant and became like men. In his way he was as a man; We read several places about the intimate contact there is between the Father and the Son. Joh.e.17. 4 I have glorified you on earth when I finished the work you gave me to do. 5 And now I ask you, Father, give me the glory which I had with thee before the world was. Jesus renounced this glory of two reasons. 1) It pleased the Father that Jesus showed 100% submission to his will. 2) When he became a man he could expiate our sins and die in our place. 8 he humbled himself and became obedient unto death, even death on a cross. It was a humiliation for Jesus to be a man and eventually suffer a criminal's death by dying on a cross. But he obeyed against His Father just as Isaac was in 1st Mos.b.21. But Jesus was not only humbled in his death, his entire life was a humiliation with the way he was treated, mocked and opposed. This culminated in a total legal protection means to be judged on the front of Pontius Pilatius and later when the sentence was carried out at his death as a punishment.
Related links: http://the-heavenly-blog.janchristensen.net/2012/10/nr-388-marriage.html http://the-heavenly-blog.janchristensen.net/2012/09/nr-376-remarriage-any-problem-no-it-is.html http://the-heavenly-blog.janchristensen.net/2011/11/nr-131-what-is-important-to-teach.html
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