onsdag 20. mars 2013

Nr. 474: Not being able to cope with relationship problems, blaming lack of maturity very often!

Nr. 474:

Not being able to cope with relationship problems, blaming lack of maturity very often!

This is of course simplified, but maturity is something that prevents than from experience being divorced or have major problems in the relationship. We need to be like the giraffe, who see the problems and difficulties. And handles things with the intent that a new marriage is always the question for a Christian. Either we live with what we have agreed, or single life: 1 Cor. 7. 10 The married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, that a wife should not separate herself from her husband; 11 but she is separated from him when she vedbli being unmarried or reconciled with her husband - and that a man to separate himself from his wife.

This is from a marriage our promises to each other as real people:

I take you, NN, to my spouse. I will love and honor you and be faithful to you in good times and bad until death do us part. This is my promise to you.

OR NN, in God's name do I accept you as my husband. I will be with you and share what the future holds. I want to give and receive; speaking and listening, inspire and provide answers. And in our life together I will be faithful and loyal to all of me, as long as we both live.

OR NN, I love you. I want to live my life with you. With my love I will honor you in good times and bad, in sickness and in health, as long as we both live. This is my promise to you. (End of quote).

God creates us male and female and to each other, there are two likebyrdige partners.

In psychology the maturity ability to react to the environment in an appropriate manner. This response is generally learned rather than instinctive, and is not determined by one's age. (From the English Wikipedia).

Maturity has to react and deal with things straight, healthy and so the best comes out of the situation. As believers is the "success" to have a lifelong marriage that was what God created us, between a man and a woman.

Then God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. They will rule the oceans of fish and birds, the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth. So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him, male and female he created them. And God blessed them and said to them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and fill the earth, subdue it and have dominion over the sea fishes and birds, and over every living thing that moves on the earth. (Gen. 1 1.26 to 28). We are created by God. We are willed by God. We are created in His image. Here rests our dignity. And since some seem to believe that the Christian church has not always claimed it: It rests our equality. "God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him, male and female he created them." "Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh. And the Lord God built the rib he had taken from man, a woman, and brought her to the man . " (2.21 to 22). And she received a jubilant reception. "And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh. She shall be called Woman, because from man she was taken." (2.23). "Man Inside - man" is a pun in Hebrew: "ISJ" mean man, "isjsja" she is taken from the man. There's a great effort to make the same pun in Nynorsk: "It shall be called woman, because she is teki of a man." (Nynorsk 1933). Do we see how it is again a question of equality - the same nature, if you will - but the difference? It is located in the very name of the man and woman, "ISJ" like me, "bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh," but "isjsja", also something else, something unique. Equality is emphasized again when so called: "Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife and they shall become one flesh." (2.24). It is a comprehensive and deep communion between two equal partners. We can not go into the scope of it today. But it's supposed to be a re brilliance of the relationship between God and his people, between Christ and the church. Paul quotes this verse in Ephesians: "Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh." He explains: "This is a great mystery - but I speak concerning Christ and the church." (Ephesians 5.31 to 32).

How, then, have a happy, life-long and fruitful marriage? Of course this is not a definitive answer, thankfully. But some "keys" will I give you, want to set up ten (10) different aspects or ways to get out and have a life-long marriage. Did not get to elaborate on these points when I've written so much about this and similar topics. And you'll find relevant articles on this blog and our website on this topic.

1) Resolve to be faithful for life!

2) Regular sex.

3) Do not woo by others or flirting, it creates jealousy and enmity.

4) As a Christian, it is never permitted remarriage.

5) Work hard together.

6) Be agreed upbringing.

7) Parent and healthy economy.

8) Be regularly and have family devotions stuck together.

9) Travel on vacation separately, but together.

10) Always try to facilitate that do not do things on their own, but together.

Want to read more about this topic? Look at the blog and our website:

Related links: http://the-heavenly-blog.janchristensen.net/ http://janchristensen.net/ http://the-heavenly-blog.janchristensen.net/2012/04/nr-290-pornography-in-all-shapes-and.html http://the-heavenly-blog.janchristensen.net/2012/04/nr-288-its-narcissistic-and-false.html http://the-heavenly-blog.janchristensen.net/2012/02/nr-251.html http://the-heavenly-blog.janchristensen.net/2011/10/nr-78-divorce-and-remarriage-is-only.html http://the-heavenly-blog.janchristensen.net/2011/10/nr-74-allowing-female-pastors-and.html

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