Nr. 524: How to find the "right" to marry? What does the word of God?

Nr. 524:

How to find the "right" to marry? What does the word of God?

1 Thess. 4 1 Finally then, brethren, pray and beseech you in the Lord Jesus, that as ye have received of us how ye ought to walk and to please God, as ye do well, so ye would abound more and more. 2 For ye know what commandments we gave you by the Lord Jesus. 3 For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from fornication: 4 that each of you know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honor, 5 not in the passion of lust, like the Gentiles that know not God: 6 that no one should do his brother wrong and uskjell in what he has to do with him, for the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified. 7 For God hath not called us unto uncleanness, but unto holiness. 8 He therefore that despiseth, despiseth not man, but God, who also gives his Holy Spirit to you.

You were made to be loved - and certainly I have loved you, the idea of ​​you, my whole life.

Elizabeth Barrett Browning

Photo shows a couple who express their love for one another, we all men alike will be loved and to love.



As believers we will not just go for looks, money, and more. But who we can serve the Lord together with and go into a ministry and mission in the Church of God. Wherefore we will win us a wife. What does it mean to win? It is a loss if we choose us a spouse that we can not serve the Lord and to complete our vocation in with.

To find a spouse, which also made the wise King Solomon puzzled.

Proverbs 30:19 Ørnens way the sky serpent's way over the stone ship's way at sea and a man's way to a virgin.

Want a list of ten points (10) it could have been infinitely more to talk about how we can make it "right". When the key words, or so the article as too long.

1) You must "see" for yourself what it's like to live with the person for life.

Most have an all too brief perspective on this. We select a spouse - for life! Not a day or night. Hence also the thinking and use sense, just as important if not more important than the feeling and heart. Why build a a house either in wood or stone? For it is durable materials. Here we must also think about it, selecting a life partner and a spouse - it's for life!

2) As Christians, we are also interested in serving God. Therefore also our choice of spouse be who we can serve God in the best with. A choice to serve God with a sister or brother in the Lord.

3) This point should and should not be necessary to mention as it is for me a matter of course that a spouse who is a Christian. That one does not choose a Christian or a spouse who has a different religion are really putting themselves without passing God's will and purpose for their lives. Of course, everything can go well. But this is to choose to go into the problems and difficulties willingly without that really need it.

4) Appearance does certainly not all. Yet it is appreciated and important to mention. We will live together for life. Therefore also look and a like the one to marry and be married also of importance. But to base a relationship on looks is stillborn, but to ignore it is also falling in the second trench. It is important to have a nice balance. It is important, period!

5) Before a marriage should discuss and converse also through things. It is important to go into marriage best prepared. Where to live, how many children one could imagined, with regard to the church. With the economy and future career etc. All this should and should not come as a surprise. But that one is aware of how others think, think and think. It will make many things much easier and conflict level is not so high!

6) It says that we as believers are to win our spouse. Then in sanctification and honor. We must look after the spiritual qualities above all else, then so is everything else. I know about preachers and other Christian leaders who have been warned not to marry the person then look was lower than the spiritual level. Went well? No, why learn also from others' mistakes dear friend!

7) Public finance, common children, common reismål on vacation and everything else common I would recommend. To be married is to start building up a business from almost zero to become something far more than a self-imagined. Should the success it has nothing to having everything in common which creates unity and common identity.

8) I think that the "right" can be more. Therefore, it is also to choose one among several of the one to marry. Then it is important to choose wisely. Do not "rush" to just satisfy their desires. But when one is selected, it is a chosen THE RIGHT LIFE OUT! HERE ARE NOT ANY OTHER UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES!

9) For a believer in Jesus is to marry a choice for life. Jesus was teaching that marriage is for life. Therefore, for a believer to remarry after a divorce or marrying a divorced is living in sin (adultery).

10) Getting married is not to control and decide over the other, but to put the other above yourself. However, it is important to have and maintain some interests in life. We will be the people. But what to get and have a home to return to, it is paradise on earth, especially when truth and love prevail in family and home.

Final comment:

There are several things that make the frightened about choosing the "right". It is inter alia when they say that God has chosen you out of me etc. This is manipulation, which can destroy a man. Add life there and the choice of life partner in the hands of God, and God will be with, you bet! However, use your head as much as the heart. Marriage is as much a 'work' as it is a "paradise". It's sure something in between there, why is it about to make a good choice so that the challenges and problems that will not be unwieldy. But fully possible to manage and can grow with. In fact, marriage and suffered to live with another man gets richer and richer as time goes on all levels, especially when God is with!

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