It is fully possible to live together with the same spouse for life. There's just something important steps to do, we'll do the rest God!
Mark 10 6 But from the beginning of creation God made them male and female. 7 Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife, 8 and the two shall become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9 What therefore God hath together: it let not man separate.
Here my beloved wife Berit that I have lived with since 1987 and intend to live with forever. She liked it so well that she would not be a bar to spend all my life, but also throughout eternity with me, hallelujah!
Retrieved this from VD by Dag Øivind Østereng:
Jesus and Marriage We now come to the NT. For a Christian church falls all the standards in place with NT. And it is the Lord Jesus himself must have the final word on these things in the church. Apostolic exhortation in the letter literature does not make any normative new to, or subtracts anything from that which is determined by Jesus.
There is a wide range of wedding and bridal metaphors in the Gospels. We see it in parables and in the life of Jesus. Among other things, his first during which, according to the apostle John relates to a wedding, and that the church's tradition of interpretation stands as a sign of Christ's presence in the Christian marriage. And this wedding and brudemetaforikken is a further elaboration of the mysterious relationship between God and his people, as we see traces of the Old Testament, in the creation of texts and the prophets. While this wedding and brudemetaforikken has an eschatological view with regard to the big party in fulfilling God's kingdom, as in Biblical terminology is called the marriage of the Lamb.
We will not delve in this mystery, but it also belongs to our understanding of the relationship between man and woman in marriage here on earth. The relationship that is dissolved by death, and that does not last into heaven, will still be an image of the great relationship with God our Creator and Redeemer. The marriage falling time should be an image of the eternal things. Apart from the comprehensive mysterious substance in the Gospels and elsewhere in the NT about wedding metaphor, so we are left with two main synoptic texts in Mark 10 and Matthew 5, and 8 basic verse about the same thing in Matthew 19 We can say that Jesus clarifies the church's understanding of marriage about ten verses in the Bible, because the verses we here mention overlap in content and meaning. With ten verses turn Jesus Christian marriage ethics real, and he does so mainly by pointing to GT. We do not even look up all the places, but stick to Matthew 19.5-9, "he said, Have you not read that the Creator from the beginning made them male and female and said, 'Therefore a man shall leave father and mother and cleave unto his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh. ' So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let man not separate. "They asked him," Why then did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce before he can send her away? "He replied," Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives. But from the beginning it was not so. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery. "
The premise for what Jesus says here is the question of divorce, where Jesus controversy with Moses. In addition sharpens Jesus bit into the creation story using a umissforståelig numerals found in the Septuagint, but not in the Hebrew masoretteksten, when he says that "... the two shall become one flesh." Tall word two are not in the Hebrew text, only numeral one. But by quoting the Septuagint, Jesus confirms the doctrine development happened already in GT toward monogamy. And in Jesus' mouth is no longer any doubt. Marriage is between two, one man and one woman. In other words unequivocally monogamous.
Jesus quotes the Old Testament here and therefore with the words to leave ... and hold / adhere to ..., as an expression of covenant ceremony. And then he adds the genuine words that bear the master's stamp: "What God has joined together, people will not stand" (Matthew 19.6, Mark 10.9). Here we understand that Jesus did not look at marriage alone as a social, human apparatus of social life, but as instituted by God in creation as something unbreakable, because God has joined man and woman together. God's marriage husband. No one has ever been so categorically that Jesus at this point. But as he has given the church the norm which we call the heterosexual, monogamous, lifelong marriage settlement. It is the basic norm marriage in the NT. Jesus did not leave any other standard than this. And remarriage of the question as long as the spouse lives.
NT's view on divorce is principally related to what constitutes marriage, namely the Charter and the sexual union between one man and one woman. Listen, that sexual infidelity is therefore in itself a real adultery, because it violates the unit to be faithful unifying between real people. Hor is itself a covenant violations and marriage is violated in its intention. Why does Jesus divorce, as confirmation of the covenant breach, to avoid fornication. But he does not allow remarriage if you come in this situation. Those who have come in such a situation has a biblical right to live alone, separated from her unfaithful spouse, or reconcile and renew the covenant through fine (cf. 1 Cor 7,11).
Paul is the one that has the greatest teaching on marriage. He is totally in line with Jesus' teaching on divorce and marriage relationship. But he also goes somewhat further in its guidance. Paul mentions one reason for divorce is interesting. He speaks of the right to divorce where the spouses do not share the faith (1Kor12 0.7 to 17). It is a kind of variation of endogamy that says it best is that the spouses are of the same faith, the same kind. But here we must pay close attention to what Paul writes. The Christian party to the marriage is given no right to file for divorce. It is the infidel party granted the right to leave their Christian spouse. Then the Christians passively allow it.
Does not Paul here also the norm that is not approved of Jesus? No, we do not see it that way. For Paul has a Christ-rooted norm in that he writes here. The main worm is in fact real, the Christian should not divorce, even if the other is disbelief. It will be wrong. Contrary to the Christian struggle to take care of too unbelief husband or wife, because in a way also sanctifies the unbelieving party. It is incredibly strong words about what advantage an unbeliever have to be married to a Christian. The competent saints. But - we encounter here is where a Christian faces a spouse who disbelieve and will break the marriage settlement, then carries the unbelieving party responsible for the breach, and the Christian can not be blamed for it.
Paul introduces this guide any new norm in the church, he maintains norm that divorce is a violation of God's will. But he makes the church must always venture in the face of life, namely to apply the norm. Paul's apostolic guidance in this area is therefore to be considered as used and derived norm from Jesus' teachings about marriage.
In the New Testament we find many warnings against fornication and adultery (cf. 1 Cor 6,15 ff and Hebrews 13.4, etc.). In particular we refer to the Decalogue (the Ten Commandments) in the Gospels (Mark 10:19, etc.) And the same can be seen in the Epistles, where adultery is repeated constantly in the download directories and other sins. (Cf. Gal 5:19 f, etc.)
The texts concerning homosexual relationships joins the same general rejection on the basis of the norms we have already seen. In relation to homosexual relationships, it is interesting that Paul in Romans 1:27, 1 Corinthians 6.9 and 1 Timothy 1.10 where this is mentioned, he uses terminological equivalent concepts in Greek that corresponds to the Hebrew word pair Zachar (Heb. male ) and neqvah Heb.: female). Paul does not use the common words for man (in Greek: anaerobi / andros) and woman (in Greek: Gynae / gynaika) when he admonishes against homosexual behavior, but he uses the terms ARSA (Greek: male / male) and thælys (Greek : Female / female) to put the ban into its creation theological context. This is strikingly evident. And if we translate this from terminology would Rooms 1.27 read as follows: "Likewise also the men leaving the natural use of the female sex, burned in their lust for one another. Male unseemly with male gender, ... "The point is that this conflicts with creation norm, which Paul believes everyone can read of nature, and therefore also hold events responsible for this area based on natural law (cf. Rom 1:20).
Marriage in the NT is far from exhausted with what we have said so far, but I also need to round this by briefly mentioning the Christian marriage as a sign of the relationship between Christ and the Church (Ephesians 5:32). A sacrament, we read in the Latin edition, the Vulgate. A mystery we read in the Greek text. And this places a special responsibility on the Christian Church to realize and proclaim the love that should - ideally - enforced after Christ's own example in marriage. Therefore, should a Christian do not provide marriage when it can be a burden, but also in the cross see the love in forgiveness and fellowship around the burdens of good and bad days. (End of quote).
Would like to mention ten (10) short ground rules for living together in a lifetime. When the key words as this is not a book but an article:
1) Decide in advance before going into the marriage never to be unfaithful.
This can not be emphasized enough. I think that many here fail, infidelity begins long before one is cheating. It begins in the mind and emotions. By being unfaithful fails to God and above all the one you married. Is there forgiveness? Yes, but there is no easy way, but it is fully possible in Christ Jesus.
2) Decide in advance before going into the marriage never to allow yourself to fall in love than the other your spouse.
To see the others, it's about the dumbest thing than you do. But that hit other people, which also may be attracted to is not abnormal. However, to allow himself to fall in love, it is sick and directly destructive and which in turn will lead to problems and infidelity.
3) Decide in advance before going into the marriage that you will be fully responsible for himself out to be a good spouse.
To marry and commit to live together with another human life is a big commitment. If one has not taken responsibility before, then you have to start with it then. But the best thing is of course to have learned to take responsibility, then there will be a gradual transition to go into a marriage.
4) Decide in advance before going into the marriage that I should be the right spouse for whom I now marry.
The important thing is not just that you hit the "right". But that you are the "right". It's about to get a grip on their own lives, sooner than take action also on the lives of others. Even your spouse. First up for others. Such is the Christian sanctification.
5) Decide in advance before going into the marriage that that man I'll take responsibility as a woman to submit my husband.
The Bible speaks of the roles, if we are equal before God. Here one must distinguish. Scripture clearly says that we are different and the woman is the No. 2 and No. 1 man Here we could have taken many scriptures. But the man has a different responsibility areas than the woman. And the woman a different area of responsibility than the man. It is best for everyone and it is important that one finds his role, settles down with it and live it out.
6) Decide in advance before going into the marriage that we are two equal partners that will complement and match each other.
While there is a role sharing and a pattern in a marriage and relationships. Then there are also two equal and equal partner to meet, have intercourse, and in all ways of living together which also education and upbringing of children coming in with the majority.
7) Determine in advance before going into the marriage that children are a gift from God and I will do all the best for them and set higher than my own interests.
It is not just healthy to be "play-boy" in a marriage. I've seen it several times that there are those who live in a marriage as if they were single and single. To marry is to add something, change and take on a responsibility which a Christian who really must put others above yourself. Not only in words, but in truth, also in deed.
8) Decide in advance before going into the marriage that now you leave your "old" famille to build and get a "new"!
There is no question of breaking ale touch with your old family. But what must put his new family higher and prioritize the more important. There is also a change, safe in most cases most of the woman. Leaving everything to let something else take over his new family where one no longer is the son / daughter, but man / woman.
9) Decide in advance before going into the marriage that now bachelor life and single life-substituted with a family.
Have been on this already. But it is so important that own hobbies and interests are now at # 2 There are times where I have seen some that will wipe out all of his interests, but it is also wrong. It's about to be correct, that the family interests is No. 1 and their own interests and hobbies No. 2 Then everything right!
10) Decide in advance before going into the marriage that you will be responsible and get up every day to work and serve the other and your family.
In many ways life down here a party traveling when one has a job to go to that one can live and thrive. Have a child's life and relationships. To the older I get I see that one live a structured and well life is also what it takes to have a good family life. Scripture speaks several people that work and rest belong together, not separately. We will work but also rest. When life is rich and good.
Final comment:
I have tried to touch something that is very important. It is having the right attitude before than going into a marriage to succeed and live together forever. I know that God led me and showed me many things before I married, so that transition and understanding of what marriage was not insurmountable after I was married. But it was like a moving and harmonious transition from being single to being married. The barrier was broken when I was accustomed to take responsibility before I was married and had a wise understanding of what marriage meant by obligations and responsibilities. Of course, not everything can be improved to, em anyway as far as possible. I have written a sentence that has gone again it is this: "Deciding in advance before going into marriage." The focus of this article and the reminder from my side is to have the right attitude and be prepared before than going into marriage in the best way possible. Then with God's help and guidance!
Related links: http://the-heavenly-blog.janchristensen.net/2012/07/nr-333-is-remarried-ministers-worse.html http://the-heavenly-blog.janchristensen.net/2012/05/nr-304-marriage-divorce-and-remarriage.html http://the-heavenly-blog.janchristensen.net/2013/06/nr-522-is-your-spouse-cheating-or-fail.html
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