Why I do not respond or will report people who write
lies and untruths about me. With the worst and ugliest karrastikker and fables!
I do not really up through preñar ran after I became a
believer and started following God's word carefully. Always experienced
resistance. But simultaneously, I think I can say that by and large it all I
have turned the other cheek and overlooked things were!
Photo by psychologist Jan Atle Andersen who has a
teaching that goes on is not what is said, but how we deal with it is being
said!
I am opposed to report people as God's word
discourages this, God will "run" our cause and are the judge.
Simultaneously we believers have a internal justice where we rectify such
things. Then there are usually always more a spiritual conflict than what one
sees with the naked eye. But as if unwillingly can review and if there are of
course some very criminal acts etc.
I've heard so much about me, not least in the recent
past by Jan Aage Torp and website Searchlight. Including I'm a demon, false
prophet, needs treatment is retarded, has asparagus syndrome, heresies, vile
blogs, like lies, soon convicted and imprisoned, stalker, looks retarded, have
the treatment, dangerous, suffering from a mental disorder, lacking empathy and
so much else it will take too long time to mention more.
How do I respond? I try the individual statements, and
ask me, it is no substance in it. All this is mentioned here is not it,
therefore I am not characterize this at all!
I've heard a psychologist Jan Atle Andersen, who is
very much instructive to tell us.
What his teaching including going out is not what is
said, but how we deal with it is being said!
I've heard him on P2 radio program Echoes where he has
said a lot well, and have read a bit about him in retrospect. Here is some of
what he has responded during an interview:
- When I get such messages, I'm glad I've learned to
not let me violate words, says Andersen bt.no today.
The major points to Andersen that victims can be
violating the bully.
To reduce bullying, one early teach children to take
responsibility for themselves and their own reactions. Children must also learn
that words can not hurt, stab or kill. To believe otherwise is pure voodoo,
says Andersen.
"Missing Link"
- I had expected a lot more pepper than I got for
these bogs. Surprisingly, many have given me support, says Andersen.
- What feedback did you get?
- Some believe my way of thinking is a kind of
"missing link" in bullying. Some believe this is the way to think
about the future, says Andersen.
But Andersen has also received harsh criticism. A
teacher asked Andersen be quiet.
"Bullying leads to anxiety, depression and
suicide. There is a reason that voodoo works. Use your words to encourage,
assist, rose, guiding - or be silent »
- Some of the messages have been full of invective,
often from people who say they have been victims of bullying. They react in
affect and it is like it is the problem. They let themselves violate without've
been meaning from my side to violate them. They have not learned to take
responsibility for their own feelings. It is not I who irritates them, but
those who irritates herself, says Andersen.
- What feedback have you gotten from the
professionals?
- There is very little support. I have been accused of
saying this to get around PR person. I rather think that they are talking about
themselves, says Andersen.
- You've got some requests from victims who have told
their story. What impression do you?
- I think that there have been so terrible many
unnecessary tragedies. I answer most of those who have approached, if not too
many epithets involved. My view is: If I show compassion victim, so I pickle
them into victimhood. If I say they must find the way out of victimhood, so
they experience it as offensive, says Andersen.
- What about those who are not able to travel out of a
possible role of victim?
- The best we can do is to teach them to take
responsibility in their own lives, but it's easier said than done, says
Andersen.
- They let themselves violate without've been meaning
from my side to violate them. They have not learned to take responsibility for
their own feelings, psychologist Jan Atle Andersen
Discussion with Bekkemellem
Saturday was the psychologist in radio debate with
Karita Bekkemellem in connection with its initiative. The former Labour
minister has previously emerged in the media and told how she was bullied by
established AP women when she came as a young 24-year-old to Parliament.
- But Bekkemellem have a pretty strong story about how
she should have been frozen out of a pretty snappy woman group in labor. What
should she have done in such a situation?
- Short and sweet not care about what they said.
People are responsible for their own emotions. I do not think it is necessarily
true that the ladies of Labor was necessarily so grisly that Karita want it to.
From my experience as a conflict advisor in working life, I have never
experienced a situation with many villains that goes against an innocent victim,
says Andersen.
- As a rule, a person who is in conflict obtained both
one and two and three yellow cards before the red coming, says the
psychologist.
General believes Andersen that most people being
thrown out of a party or a workplace, has contributed itself to the situation
they have landed in.
- I do not think jobs are full of psychopaths. When
one gets collective reactions, so one has very often contributed yourself,
either by act or disloyal challenged norms. Very often due to the whole lack of
social intelligence, says the psychologist.
Chauvinistic hersketeknikk
Even says Bekkemellem to BT that she reacted strongly
psychologist Andersen appearance in the radio program.
- I want me frabedt that I provoked. He must endure
counterarguments to his vision. Claiming that I obviously provoked is nothing
else than chauvinistic hersketeknikk says Bekkemellem.
- It's okay that he said anything about my background,
but I reacted strongly to the signal power in that one from his profession go
out and portray it as if victims can be blamed for what they are exposed to,
says Bekkemellem.
She says she has been faced with many declarations of
support for their radio meeting with the psychologist.
- Facebook wall mine is full of greetings, she says.
- Makes himself a victim in life
Andersen also come with several comments about
Christian Democrat former deputy Inger Lise Hansen.
- Generally, I think that whoever takes
responsibility, strengthens itself. Whoever blames others, weakens himself and
making himself a victim of life. After 26 years as conflict treat, I've yet to
hear a man say "I've got myself into a conflict with someone at work. I
wonder if I might have listed me stupid. Maybe I should go and ask someone
excuse "
- It is always "the others" who are to
blame, says Andersen.
(End of quote).
Final Comment:
2 Cor. 6. 3 We do not give people any reason to be
banished so the service be not blasphemed. 4 No, we show ourselves as servants
of God in every way: with great patience in adversity, distress and anxiety, 5
under reproaches, in prison and in riots, in hard work, in watchings and
hunger. 6 We go forward with integrity and wisdom, with patience and kindness,
in the Holy Spirit, with sincere love, 7 with the word of truth and power of God,
with righteousness weapon in right and left hand, 8 in honor and dishonor,
maligned and honored . They say we are leading people astray, but we speak the
truth, 9 we are unappreciated, yet recognized, we are dying, and behold we
live! We are beaten, but not killed, 10 we mourn, but is always happy, we are
poor, but making many rich; we have nothing but possessing everything.
11 We have
now spoken outspokenly, Corinthians. You have large room in our hearts. 12 Ye
have not cramped with us, it is in their own heart is tight. 13 But I speak as
to children: Do return! Open yourselves to us.
What is it really apostle Paul says here? Key phrase
is in the middle here:
"In honor and dishonor, maligned and honored.
They say we are leading people astray, but we speak the truth, we are
unappreciated, yet recognized, we are dying, and behold we live! ".
As Christians, not least as a public preachers, we
must assume that this is "normal". Experiencing honor and dishonor,
not everyone will like us. Maligned and honored, Jesus heard both hosanna and
the crucifixion, so it probably will be for us too!
They say we are leading people astray, but we speak
the truth. It will never be "in" to be a true preacher of the Word,
the resistance will many times be greatest from the so-called believers.
We are unappreciated, yet recognized God recognition
and pleasure is more precious and important than human praise and recognition.
We are dying, and behold we live! We die away from our
own, and this world. More and more we become liberated, happy and alive. There
is pain and through the pain we will experience our greatest triumphs and what
lives within us is revealed and it arrives!
So never let what other people think and control you,
or me. But what God's word says, and what lives in our hearts, follow you and
careful to have a clear and clean conscience! Then we will have victory, even
more than victory is the Lord's words and promises of the Lord to us!
Acts 23. 1. Paul looked straight at the Council and
said, "Brethren, with quite good conscience I have lived my life for God
until today."
Rom. 8. 31 What shall we then say to these things? If
God is for us, who is against us? 32 He that spared not his own Son, but gave
him up for us all, he can do anything other than to give us everything with
him?
33 Who can
accuse them God has chosen? God who acquits. 34 Who then can condemn? Christ
Jesus is the one who died, yes, more than that, he stood up and seated at God's
right hand, and he prays for us. 35 Who shall separate us from the love of
Christ? Distress, anxiety, persecution, famine, nakedness, danger or sword? 36
As it is written:
For
your sake we are killed all day long,
We
considered slaughtering sheep.
37 But in all these things we are more than conquerors
through him who loved us. 38 For I am persuaded that neither death nor life,
neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers,
39 neither that which is in the high or in the deep, nor any other creature,
shall able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.
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