What makes you fit for marriage? At least two things, not having been married before and getting your own life and finances in order!

http://the-heavenly-blog.janchristensen.net/2012/12/nr-416-have-me-as-models-that-i-have.html

The church – not to mention the Pentecostal/charismatic – communities. Has possibly become the opposite of what Jesus meant where the profiled preachers are very good at it.
But many of the church members struggle with, among other things, consumer loans, apply in other ways. This is clearly not in accordance with God's good will.

Illustrative picture where this preacher, unfortunately like many others, did not live as he should.

I was out with a fairly newly saved brother who wanted to get married.
He was single!
I have had several conversations with men who are unmarried – single – but want to get married.
Where they fulfill the first by not being married as a believer.
That is the first, and most important.
Single in the biblical sense is not having been married as a believer.
Is this so important?
Yes, as believers we are bound to our spouse as long as that person lives.
It is only death – and only death! That gives access to a new marriage!
Rom. 7. 2 A woman who has a husband is bound to him, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law of her husband.
3 If, while her husband lives, she marries another, she will be called an adulteress. But if her husband dies, she is free from the law of her husband, and is no adulteress if she marries another.
1930 translation:
Rom. 7. 2 For the married woman is bound by law to her husband as long as he lives; but if her husband dies, she is free from the law that bound her to her husband. 3 Therefore, if, while her husband lives, she marries another man, she will be called an adulteress; but if her husband dies, she is free from the law, so that she is not an adulteress if she marries another man.

As a man according to the scriptures, one is the head of the family, and has responsibility for the economic and spiritual!

What is masculinity and being a man from a Christian perspective?
Here I have experienced that Christian men are let down by those who are leaders and who should have experience and make them disciples.
That is what the scriptures say, that discipleship is a pillar of the Christian faith.

Luke 6. 40 A disciple is not above his teacher. But when he is fully prepared, he will be like his teacher.

Now it is of course not the case that all men are let down by those who are older and more mature.
Unfortunately, there are far too many believing men who are not really fit for marriage and poorly suited.
Then with regard to carrying the responsibility that is entering into a marriage.
Where one as a man according to the scriptures is the head of the family and has responsibility for the economic and spiritual.

Even simple understandings of how to act as a man, many do not understand!

Now I have come across a number of single men who want and want to get married.
As believers, many of these are sincere in their Christian faith.
But the help, guidance and understanding one needs to enter into marriage is absent.
As mentioned, the scripture says:
"A disciple is not above his teacher. But when he is fully prepared, he will be like his teacher."

The Christian community is built so that one should TEACH AWAY, AND MAKE DISCIPLES OF THOSE WHO HAVE COME TO FAITH!

How does it work within the Pentecostal movement and the charismatic community that I know best?
Yes, there are certainly many who also receive help on several levels.
Who move forward in their spiritual and human development in a good and right way.
But far too many do not move forward.
They are not fit for the responsibility and what is needed to become and be a good husband.
They will possibly never become the head of the family as the man should be in a family from a Christian point of view?

We as believers should not exploit and exploit each other, but help and guide each other!

How do many Pentecostal/charismatic preachers act?

They really look healthy and charismatic.

Successful and appear to be unsurpassed!

It is the people who hear, support and pray for these who come to me and feel and experience that they are not enough.
They do not make it, and want to get married in many cases.
It is those who are either married or divorced who also make contact.
If they are in the minority for me.

We should help each other - but how?

Here is of course the 1000 kroner question.

This is of course individual, and here someone who is learning cannot always help fully.
Many steps must also be taken alone.
One can be a helper and conversation partner for help and blessing.
And pray with, and for each other.
Do not add to the burden, but help so that we all succeed in our lives.
Also here on earth, not just in "Heaven!"

Just understanding the system here in Norway - and taking ad Notam to it is a great help!

I believe that many believers do not get help from anyone.
Neither parents nor others.
Then one must actually learn to save to build up equity to be able to buy a house or apartment.
For many there are other solutions.
To give to well-fed predicates and congregations. And thus as if God will automatically help and provide for them, isn't that how it always works, right?
We should seek first the kingdom of God and learn to walk Here